Reclaiming You: 5 Steps to Feeling More Like Yourself Again

Sometimes it’s after becoming a parent. Sometimes it’s during a career shift, menopause, or after years of caring for everyone else but you.
The woman in the mirror still looks like you — but something’s shifted. A sense of distance. A dull ache for who you used to be — or maybe who you haven’t met yet.

If this speaks to you, I want you to know this:

You haven’t lost yourself. You’ve simply been on pause.

And it’s completely okay to want more — more clarity, more connection, more you.

Here are five gentle steps to begin reclaiming your sense of self, grounded in the five pillars that guide my coaching.

1. Self-Awareness: Remembering Who You Are

Start by turning inward — not with judgement, but curiosity.
Ask yourself: How am I, really? What do I need right now?

Often, we’ve been so busy surviving that we forget to check in with ourselves.

You might like to journal or voice note your thoughts. Even ten minutes of stillness can reconnect you with the part of you that’s been whispering beneath the noise.

Try this:
Write down 5 words that describe how you feel at your best. Then reflect: What’s currently supporting or blocking those feelings in my day-to-day life?

How does it feel to see words written in front of you and to offload your thoughts and feelings?

2. Spirituality: Reconnecting with What Grounds You

Spirituality doesn’t have to mean rituals or religion. It’s simply about coming back to something greater — your inner wisdom, your energy, your sense of peace.

I used to think that I had to be a certain way when we talk about spirituality but it really is not the case. I always advise my clients to do what feels right for them and them only.

This pillar invites you to ask: What helps me feel connected?

It might be time in nature, a walk in the stillness, a quiet meditation, or even music that moves you. You don’t need to do more. You just need to be — softly, without expectation.

Try this:
Pause today and ask: What is one small, sacred act I can offer myself today? Then do it without guilt.

3. Physical & Wellbeing: Returning to Your Body with Kindness

When we feel disconnected from ourselves, it often shows up in the body. Fatigue. Tension. That sense of feeling “off.”
But instead of pushing through, what if we softened?

Rather than fixing your body, start listening to it. Nourish it. Thank it for all it’s held — your joy, your grief, your strength.

Try this:
Check in gently: What does my body need today — rest, movement, nourishment, stillness? Let that be enough.

4. Emotional Connection: Making Space for Your Truth

Reclaiming yourself means making room for all your feelings — not just the polished ones.
You are allowed to feel unsure, lost, hopeful, grieving, excited — even all at once.

The goal isn’t to tidy your emotions, but to honour them. Because when we allow our truth to surface, we begin to feel whole again.

Try this:
Name your current emotion without trying to change it.
Then ask: What is this feeling trying to tell me?
That question alone can unlock so much healing.

5. Life Design: Creating a Life That Feels Like Yours

This is where your power quietly returns.

Life design is about intentional living — choosing what stays, what shifts, and what you’re ready to call in. It’s not about a huge life overhaul. It’s about one aligned step at a time.

You don’t need to have it all mapped out. You just need to know the next gentle yes.

Try this:
Ask yourself: If I trusted I was worthy, what would I say yes to this month?
Then go and take one small step in that direction.

You’re Not Starting From Scratch — You’re Starting From Strength

Reclaiming yourself is not about becoming someone new.

It’s about returning to the woman you’ve always been — underneath the roles, the responsibilities, and the expectations.

You are allowed to take up space.
You are allowed to evolve.

And you are absolutely allowed to begin again — with gentleness, clarity, and quiet self-belief.

If you’d like support in exploring this journey more deeply, you might find comfort in a Soul Session or a personalised coaching package.

My one-to-one coaching is rooted in presence, safety and true transformation — in your timing, and on your terms.

You can explore available offers here:
👉 www.amywhitecoaching.co.uk/one-to-one-coaching

Or email me to book a short, informal call:
📩 info@amywhitecoaching.co.uk

Love,
Amy xx